I am shocked and deeply saddened by the large number of men and women I meet that do not feel worthy of even their own self-love. Somewhere along the way, someone told them that they were less than they are. Someone told them that they were not good enough, not thin enough, not smart enough, not confident enough, not strong enough, and not submissive enough. They were taught that they were not worthy of respect, honesty, and trust, and that their heart was not worth protecting. Sadly, some were not given choices and had physical boundaries violated, while others suffered through emotional boundaries being crossed. These beautiful souls walk through their lives expecting very little for themselves. They feel guilty when they even think of themselves or about taking time to give to themselves. They try to make up for their “lack” by continuing to try to please others, even if it is at their own expense. They measure their self-worth by the praise they receive in response to what they do for others. If they don’t receive that praise, they again feel unworthy.
We are all conditioned by the people in our lives, whether it is your mom, dad, sibling, teacher, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, clergy, or anyone else, they feed you messages that you either choose to believe or dismiss. Many of those messages are positive, and help you view yourself in a positive light. They can be nourishing to you, and help you expand and thrive in the roles you play and in life. The positive affirmations make you feel good on some level. But many times, the messages are not nourishing. In fact, they are toxic. They are like a noxious green gas that enters your mind, and then sets up residence in every cell of your body. It weighs you down, and holds you back from living with ease and comfort. Sometimes it is so overwhelming that you find it difficult to breathe. This shows up as anxiety, depression, low energy levels, irritability, weight gain, hormonal imbalances and more. The toxicity infiltrates every aspect of your life, beginning with how you view yourself. It then extends into what you expect for yourself in your job, friendships, marriages, long-term relationships, financial status, your home, emotional needs, and your body image. You hold onto the toxicity, and it becomes a part of your norm. You just keep moving along, pushing the toxic reinforcement down, coping with it, and expecting nothing more for yourself. The toxic messages start to hold you back from living the life you are truly meant to live.
Everyone has had these self-limiting beliefs…including me. It is a part of life, and a part of being in contact with other human beings. The only way to not be exposed to them is by completely isolating yourself from all other human beings. This hardly seems practical. HOWEVER, once you become aware that you are holding onto toxic and self-limiting beliefs, and that they are holding you back from truly living, it becomes your job to take steps to letting them go. It is your job to breathe out the noxious green gas.
To begin, ask yourself the following questions:
• Do you want to live your life with emotional freedom, light-heartedness, and joy, where you are able to recognize and release toxic thought patterns and relationships so you have space for more loving and nourishing experiences?
• Do you want to finally get rid of the noxious gases that keep you from achieving your fitness and weight goals?
• Do you want to move towards financial stability and improve your relationship with your children, significant other, co-workers, friends and family?
If you have answered yes to any of these questions and recognize that you need help, know that help is here and it is okay to ask for it. You are worthy of the love you desire, and you deserve to be happy. Take these next few steps to begin your personal transformation.
• Every morning, afternoon and evening, look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and repeat to yourself the following affirmation:
“I am worthy of love and I deserve to be happy.”
Next, start to pay attention to your internal dialogue. You know…the voices in your head that go back and forth…sometimes imagining your conversations with others, and sometimes just the things you are saying to yourself about yourself and others. Become aware of your thoughts, and notice how much of your time and energy is devoted to “negative” and toxic thoughts. Just become aware of them. For every five minutes of negative thoughts you have, your body suffers six hours of physiological damage. Wow. Contemplate that.
Once you become aware of your negative thought patterns, just simply set the intention that you would like to start changing what you think. You have complete power over your thoughts. You get to decide what the next thought will be. You have a choice in every moment. The challenging part is training yourself to become aware and to choose a more nourishing choice. It takes a strong commitment to yourself to release limiting beliefs and to create a more joyful life for yourself. That’s where I come in. I have been there. I understand what it takes to go through the process, and to completely transform your life. And I understand how coming out on the other side feels.
I am here to walk you through the process, support and guide you, help you nurture yourself, and hold your hand if you want. Call 330-730-7413 or email me at spatel@wellnesswithsujata.com to start the process. Give yourself the gift of self-love. You are so deserving.